So I went on a date with one of my friends. I see him all the time, and people ask me all the time if we are on a date, so we decided to make it official. He’s writing up his own version of the evening so this could get interesting. We decided to spend a lazy Sunday evening barhopping around Worcester. I hadn’t spent a day like this since my college years so it was a nice break from the norm.

We started off at a local dive, JT’s Pub, one of my favorites in Worcester. Played some keno, drank some beer, chatted with the bartender, and then moved onto our next destination. The Blarney Stone, another local favorite. Did more of the same, and kept on going. This was too easy to be a date, I wasn’t nervous and there were no akward silences. That’s the good thing about going out with a friend.

On to Leitrim’s, a big-time college hang out, luckily it was pretty empty at this time of the evening. About this time I was lucky enough to receive a message from my cousin that they were cooking on the grill, so we decided to swing over her place on the lake for some dinner. We sat around eating her delicious brownies on the porch until dinner was served. It was delicious and a great compliment to our earlier bar hopping adventures.

Well at this point the evening was still young, and luckily my partner in crime was down for some more festivities. We headed over to the Lucky Dog for some Disco Hell where we met up with several friends. Lots of dancing later I think my date was pretty drunk. He met up with this girl that he really liked and I tried to convince him to go with her, which doesn’t happen on just any date, but it didn’t end up happening.

I was finally starting to get tired, so we said good bye to everyone at the club and took off. One more stop to go, we promised our friend we would swing by Bottom’s Up at some point since he was bartending. Luckily we just made it before he closed up. As we sat at the bar and reflected on the evening, he mentioned that this must have been the longest date ever, which coming from anyone else probably would have been an insult, but from him it just made me giggle.

Oh and this is the only first date I’ve ever said “I love you” on, but of course he said it first. So basically in the end, you really can’t beat a night out with friends.

Well I’ve never been on a date and been more pressed for time. Apparently he only comes in to my town on business about once a month or so, and I only go into his town…never.

We met up at a local pizza shop for a quick lunch before he had to head back. Although it was rushed I think we made a good connection, he was very nice, though I didn’t feel any sparks. He’s about two hours away so I doubt we’ll be seeing much of each other anytime soon, but next time he comes into town perhaps we can meet up.

I’m not sure how I feel about a long-distance relationship. I did the hour drive for about a year and that really didn’t work out, I doubt I’d be good with a two hour drive, never mind how people do the hop, skip, and a plane ride kind of distance. I suppose once you find the right person to do it with though it doesn’t matter.

Alright, back to the date. So we met up at the pizza place, I had to give him very good directions, which I am horrible at, but eventually he made it. We each grabbed slices and sat down to enjoy them. With all my clumsiness issues I soon realized that pizza was not the best idea for a first date, but I focused and managed to make it through without spilling or dropping anything.

We discussed his work and where he’s from, and then we discussed my city and what I do for fun. We quickly touched on the past. He had been divorced and his two children visit every other weekend. Very different than my past, and I was surprised to hear he was not that much older than I am.

Right about then is when we had to end the date, and he had to run. We definitely could have talked longer, but I guess it’s good to keep them wanting more. Maybe I’ll see him again, maybe I won’t. We’ll see.

I finally signed on to AIM last night for the first time in forever, and it was great talking to some of you. Unfortunately by the end of the evening I had a little too much red wine and didn’t notice a couple of the screens pop up until it was too late. So if it seemed like I was ignoring you yesterday, I’m sorry, I wasn’t. I’ll try to sign on more regularly from now on, and next time I’m on I’ll only have one glass of wine.

As we all know I really haven’t been on the ball recently with my dating life, so I decided to post another ad up on Craigslist. It never fails me and there are actually a lot of emails from men that seem intersting and somewhat normal. Of course there are some real winners too. Some of them will go in the hall of shame, but the best ones will go here.

I am not his type, luckily:

I’m looking for a woman that

If interested in hearing more, please email me. You won’t be disappointed.

Then there was this guy:

hi…

can I ask, are you a fan of receiving oral pleasure?

This guy, who gave me some background on the question after I answered him with my PSAT, SAT, and GRE scores:

Hi
I was wondering what your SAT Math score was?

And last but not least, my first couple application. I’m actually quite flattered, they are a very good looking couple, come to think of it I wouldn’t mind being spoiled…

You are very cute! I guarantee this would give you some new material to write about…

Let us know if this interests you.

Thanks for all the responses, I actually found a few more potential dates. We’ll see how they go.

I bought this shirt yesterday at the Gap, it’s really cute, but it ties in the back. So yesterday while I was trying to put it on I realized that it was nearly impossible to tie it all by myself. Way to make a single girl feel all alone! I spent at least ten minutes trying to get it right, stupid shirt…

I just spent a little while on Plenty of Fish checking my emails, and I checked out a few of the profiles from some of the men I recieved messages from. The great thing about the site is that you can vote on pictures of the other members, and if you go to someone’s profile you can see their last votes. So basically you can see if someone is really on there looking for a relationship, or just on there looking to check out pictures of girls in their thongs. Makes the decision on who to respond to much easier.

My sister just had a baby on Thursday with a guy she met at AA. Looks like you really can meet men anywhere. On the bright side I have a beautiful new nephew, Aidan.

I thought this was nice, and funny. I know girls are just dumb as guys, I’ll never pretend otherwise (well maybe I will), but this guys email made me smile:

thank you!

i have always considered myself to be a good date, i am outoging and friendly and respectful, though at times probably too respectful, and i always came up with interesting date ideas. but there was never a benchmark with which to compare myself. your site shows me both good and bad things that i do on dates and it has made me better and more aware of what its like to be a woman on a date. all this time i thought men had it tough!!

Sorry, this is another late night post. Yes, I’m sober. This is what you call venting, or bitching, or whatever, but if you don’t like it you might want to stop reading, or better yet read it and if you don’t like what I’m writing that might be a red flag.

I’ve dealt with this in my own relationships, and seen way too many of my friends go through it as well. Basically what I’m sick of seeing are two people in a relationship but miserable. One of my friends is going through this now. Her boyfriend is cheating, at least she’s pretty sure that he is, and she is a headcase and finally let him know it. Gave him an ultimatum that after five years together and three years living together they either need to get married or break up. This makes no sense to me, either spend the rest of your life with me or never talk to me again, where’s the logic in that?

Well now she has a ring on her finger and is planning the wedding, she seems to have forgotten the late night phone calls from random numbers on her boyfriends cell phone, or the times he goes out with his “boys” and doesn’t come home til the next day, and the way he doesn’t answer his phone when she calls. Oh, and the girlfriend that is there to make her feel better when she hasn’t heard from him for three days.

Why is marriage the answer to all these problems, shouldn’t you try to figure out the problems before the marriage. Or even moving in together. I’ve heard “I’m not attracted to him anymore” and then a week later, “We’re moving in together.” What has changed? What is moving in together or getting married gonna solve? Why can’t you not be miserable together? I agree with men when they say, “I don’t understand women,” cuz my friends confuse the hell out of me.

I finally decided to be a little more proactive about pursuing potential dates. I decided this while I was at the bar checking out some boys with some of my friends. This is a bad idea, for one because I am at a bar, and then there is the fact that I am there with boys. Being with boys seems to be a deterent for other potential dates to approach you. Of course my female friend who was with us, who has a boyfriend, had a drink sent over to her by this other guy, so maybe it’s not that much of a deterent after all.

I did see this one guy that I thought was cute and I debated going over and talking to him. Then his friend did the lower back, excuse me thing while he walked by, and after that he kept giving me looks from across the bar and I figured it would be pointless to approach his friend. Oh well…