This is sort of old news but I still find it interesting. According to a study, men and women can rule each other out as potential partners within three seconds of meeting. The researchers based their findings on participants of a speed dating service. I really need to try one of these speed dating/eight minute dating events to see if they’re all they’re cracked up to be. Of course the data is based on a group of people who are going to an event where they will have to make decisions about potential partners speedily, but it still raises some interesting points.

As if we didn’t know this already, the research points to the theory that women are more selective than men. Women were selected by 49 percent of the men on average, and men were only selected by 34 percent of women. I guess men really do have it hard.

Well we all know what is going on with Hurricane Katrina. People need our help, and thanks to a couple of my friends, we are making it easy for you guys. Go here: United Way to donate. Or if you’re local, please come and visit me at Bottoms Up on Shrewsbury Street in Worcester on Thursday night. My cousin Amy a.k.a. Punky (yes I know she’s adorable) will be bartending and she will be donating all (yes 100 %) of her tips to the fund. If you don’t drink, or don’t feel like drinking that night but are in the area swing by with your donation. She will be handing off all donations to our friend Arlene who works for the United Way and they will be going directly to the Hurricane Katrina fund. Thanks everyone.

And this just in from Tom: I’m setting up reservations for people to donate blood beforehand…so if there is no money to be given, give your blood….one less pint of blood means one more pint of booze. Math is awesome.

If anyone would like to get in contact with Tom you can message him on his Myspace page or send me and email and I’ll forward it to him. Oh and Tom’s single ladies. Thanks everyone!

I’ve been kind of lazy, but I’m finally getting this down on paper. This was another internet date, which seem to be getting more and more awkward the more I have. He was one of the guys I accidentally stood up. I’m not sure what he was expecting from the date, but I don’t think he got it.

I was really nervous this time, particularly because I already made such a bad first impression, so of course I kept fidgeting and couldn’t sit still. It was 92 degrees out and we had made plans to go to the Italian Festival. Once we got there we walked through the tent where all the cooking is done and it had to have been at least ten degrees warmer in there. We decided to walk to the nearest air conditioned place we could think of, which happened to be Wholly Canoli.

By the time we arrived there I was sweating like crazy, it was so hot and miserable out, a really uncomfortable way to start a first date. Luckily it was cooler in there and we got some cold drinks. We talked for a bit, I’m not sure if we had a lot in common, but we got along alright. He asked me, “So you drink a lot, huh?” which I found kind of insulting, but maybe he’s right. Compared to some of my friends I don’t drink a lot, but I suppose compared to the general public I do.

He told me a little bit about his family, and I was nervous so I think I talked too much. He was definitely paranoid about online dating, and this was his first internet date, so I’m not quite sure why he started with me since he knew about the website and everything. I’m not even gonna venture a guess, I’m just gonna say I thought that was kinda weird.

I waited too long to write this all down, so I guess I don’t remember too many of the details. He was a nice guy, I was nervous since I’m guessing he already thinks I suck. I guess that I kind of set myself up for this, it doesn’t really make sense to go on a date when you feel this uncomfortable, which of course was my own fault. Needless to say, we haven’t really kept in touch, but I’ll probably run into him at some point.

So after of months of planning this is finally happening. This Friday I will be going on an elimidate style date with the band Craig. They are well known around these parts for being a little off the wall…which makes them a perfect match for me. Love is in the air boys.

Our date will consist of a group of us hopping around to different bars on Shrewsbury Street. I’m thinking I’ll emliminate one of them at each stop, until I am left with just one, and then he will be stuck with me for the rest of the evening. A few others will be joining us for moral support, and of course to rag on those who were eliminated, so if any of you would like to join us as well you are more than welcome. We already have our designated drivers in place, so we are ready for wherever the night takes us…as long as we end up at Ralph’s for the Epitome of Dog show around 11:30.

Oh and a special thanks to J.D. who made this all possible!

So I have this friend, I love her to pieces, but she makes me so aggravated sometimes. It’s not her that is aggravating actually, so much as it is the men she has in her life that treat her like crap. Why she constantly surrounds herself with them is beyond me. The exes still linger, every new guy she’s with is nice to her for about a week (I’m exaggerating a little), they are always willing to do a little for her because she will do anything for them in return, and they know how to take advantage.

If she were a complete and total bitch, I honestly wouldn’t care, but she is very nice and sweet and willing to bend over backwards for these guys. She is seeing someone now who told her he couldn’t pick her up at the airport the day before she flew in, or should I say he didn’t tell her but rather just stopped answering her phone calls and never returned her messages. The guy that was supposed to bring her to the airport last week all of a sudden couldn’t, even though she’s nice enough to let him stay at her house all the time, and he was planning on staying there while she was gone. Of course I’m there to help, always.

I think she finally got her ex’s cellphone bill out of her name, but I’m pretty sure he still owes her money. I wouldn’t usually post something like this about one of my friends, but it’s frustrating me that she is wasting so much of her time on men that treat her like this, and possibly missing out on all the great catches that we know are out there. Is being single really so bad? She keeps telling me time is running out, but she’s really not much older than me.

Maybe this bothers me so much because I have been in situations where I’ve let guys treat me, let’s just say not as well, as I should have been treated. It’s not like it’s just her either, I see this with a lot of the people around me. Are we really so desperate to be with somebody that we’re willing to feel like shit because of it?

I know I’m not perfect, and maybe my profiles aren’t the best, but there are certain things I know not to do. For instance, I received a message on Plenty of Fish from some random guy. The message seemed nice enough, but when I checked out his profile he wrote this:

About Me
Rules boy. Hard to please. Perfeccionist. Looking for someone who will put up with this and more.

First Date
Your wish is only a wish. I decide.

This guy seems like he would be great .:sarcasm:. to be in a relationship with. Seriously, what woman would actually go for this? I’m sure there are some out there though, so good luck to him.

I was also reading an MSN article on first date advice for guys. Overall I think it’s worth reading, but just remember to do your own thing and be comfortable too.

Apparently I am addicted to the range. I went on Friday again, on another girl date. The guys at Boston Gun Range are great and they even gave us each a pink rose on our way out. I think that is the first flower I’ve been given in probably three years (bar flowers do not count). I was right on target this time, I really improved from last week. My partner for the evening loved it too, I think she may be more addicted than I am. All you ladies should get down there!

I joked last week that I should bring a picture of my ex-boyfriend to put on the target, but I don’t think that would go over well with these guys. I would never actually do that anyways, plus all the pictures of him were thrown out years ago (I’m really not crazy). One of my readers came up with a great idea too:

after reading about your recent trip to the range, i came up with this one. think it could be fun to have a linneadates night at the gun range and instead of you placing a picture of your ex to shoot at, make several copies of the picture of your ex, or maybe a cartoon drawing of the typical every womans ex, and have that be the target. then you pre-screen through all the guys who are trying to woo you and invite the best few of them to go there and compete to do the most damage to the picture. the one who does, gets to take you out after!! the rest of them get nothing… or maybe you bring some single friends along with you and maybe some of them hit it off. that way not only can you get a feel for several guys at once, you can have a good time and maybe a few memories. its all about the memories.

Too bad I don’t have nearly enough men vying for my attention for that scheme to work. Plus, like I said, I don’t think they would like it too much over at the Boston Gun Range.

Single bartending at the Gypsy Lounge was a great time. There were definitely a few more girls than guys but I was alright with that. It was nice to be surrounded by guys that were polite and respectful and didn’t treat me like just one of the guys, raunchy jokes and all. I guess I didn’t learn too much about mixing drinks, not that I really needed the lesson, but it was a great ice breaker. The bonus was that I actually got to spend some time with one of my best friends, who I haven’t seen in months, and of course she looked better than I did!

I also had the opportunity to meet a few Linneadates readers, which was great, it was very nice to meet you all. I chatted with a few singles here and there, and it was just nice to know up front that everyone in the room was single, so there were no awkward moments when I’m chatting with somebody and their girlfriend walks over (that’s the worst). Then of course there was the special guest appearance of Kevin Youkulis of the Boston Red Sox. He got right in there and mixed a perfect Sex with the Bartender. I guess Mark Bellhorn was there too but I didn’t get to see him. Needless to say, I was impressed, that gal Moxie’s got a lot of pull I guess!

Another thing I liked about this event was that it was not over crowded or overwhelming, the hosts were gracious, and the atmosphere was comfortable. I am gonna try to make it to the next one in September, let me know if any of you guys are gonna be there. This is a Lock and Key party, which I’ve heard a lot of things about, so it should be fun!

Until Singles Bartending. Really looking forward to this. I know there are a few of you who will be attending, so be sure to introduce yourselves. I doubt I’ll pick up any helpful drink mixing recipes, but maybe I’ll pick something else up. From what I hear there are still some opening for the guys, which means all the girl openings are sold out, which means this is a perfect opportunity for all you single guys out there. Here’s the information again just in case you’re interested:

Singles Bartending Class - Boston - Thur Aug 18th
7-9:30pm - Gypsy Bar - 116 Boylston Street

Register now at
Moxie and the City

Everyone flirts with the bartender, right?

So why not learn how to be a bartender? The actual “class portion” will last about 30 minutes, which leaves another hour or so to taste the delicious concoctions that you make, sample the featured themed cocktails, nibble appetizers and mingle.

This is an interactive class with a happy hour feel.

COST
$28 per person
$23 if you pre-pay for yourself and a friend ($56 total)
$30 with RSVP - To RSVP, please send an e-mail to events@moxieinthecity.net and put PHILL BAR in the subject line. PLEASE SEPCIFY YOUR CITY!

ADMISISON INCLUDES
-Bartending Class
-1oz samples of 3-5 other drinks
-Cheese Crudite

SUGGESTED AGE RANGE
27-44

FEATURED COCKTAILS
Cosmopolitan
Dirty Martini
Margarita
Sex With The Bartender
Mudslide

HOW IT WILL WORK:
Arrive by 7:15pm and check in.

At 7:30pm we’ll take you to a private space where you’ll grab a seat in front of the main “mini” bar. This event will have it’s own private bartender.

From 7:30-8:15 you’ll learn how to make the drinks listed sbove.

From 8:15-9:00pm you’ll have a chance to try and make a drink ro two included in the tutorial.

We’ll set up a “speed bar” station in the room where you can try to make the featured cocktails above. Think about it. You, other “students” and a hot bartender shaking, stirring and mixing.

By 9:00 the lessons/sampling portion will be done and you’ll have another 45 minutes or so to sample the featured drinks, talk and mingle.

(Samples poured will NOT be full serving size. Expect to sample about 1oz per drink)

So much fun. A group of five of us went to Boston Gun Range for Ladies Shoot Free Fridays and it was such a good time. I have never so much as touched a gun before, so of course I was a little nervous, but the guys there were great, and it was surprisingly easy once you get the hang of it.

A couple of the girls I had the privilege of going with were quite skilled with their firearms. It was not their first time shooting and you could tell. I’m looking forward to going back next week. I think I’ve convinced a few other people to join me. What a great stress reliever too. Maybe next week I’ll take a picture of my ex and attach it to my target (j/k).

The only other people there were a couple who looked like they were on a date. The funny thing was I had hooked up with the guy once or twice quite a while ago. I never run into him, but it’s just my luck he would walk in. Luckily he’s cool and he filled out an application not too long ago, so maybe he can take me there on a date sometime, although his date was cute, so maybe he won’t be available much longer.