I’ve been thinking a lot about resolutions and I’ve decided that rather than make a whole bunch of resolutions that will be a chore to stick to, make me feel guilty, and are the same as every resolution every other person is going to make (lose weight for instance) I will be making resolutions that I know I will be able to stick with. The idea is that my resolutions are going to be things that I actually want to do, things that will be fun, things that will make me happy, things that will not be a chore.

My first resolution is to start painting again, very easy to do, very relaxing, I just have to find the time. Second resolution is to learn to surf, already have someone willing to show me, just need the weather and some waves. Resolution number three, go at least two places I’ve never been before. I’m already planning a trip to Vegas with friends, now I just need one more and I’ve got a whole year for that. Resolution four, spend less time on the internet (this may be a little more challenging). I realized today that the majority of my communications is over the internet, and I don’t think that’s very healthy. I need to get out and live life more I think. My fifth and final resolution is to find some awesome roomates (very soon hopefully) and have a cute apartment and lots of dinner/tea/cocktail parties, just like old times.

All these resolutions won’t be hard to stick to, plus they’ll bring something into my life that isn’t there right now. I’m really looking forward to 2006!

They looks so angelic don’t they? Well Santa Claus is coming to our house tonight and my little sister and brothers are so excited. Hope all is well with you and yours, and I hope Santa is good to all of you!

I guess this is some sort of a game us internet dorks play (alright, speaking for myself). So I was tagged and made my list of ten at David’s site so now I get to tag people and hope they reply either in comments or on their own site. I’m gonna be a dork about it and tag a bunch of people I know. So here’s my tagged for ten list (as if those 50 things weren’t enough):

Let’s see, well I am also left handed, single, definitely baths not showers, sister, daughter, auntie, friend, wine drinker, loyal, and supportive. I guess that works!

So now I’m going to tag:

Tom

KC

Punky

Mike

Danny

Joe Tall

Nance

John

Sandwich Repairman

Prince

Somebody do me a favor and let Prince know I tagged him, I’m not sure if he reads my blog regularly. The rest of you better be paying attention!

One of my friends has specific rules about not dating around the holiday season. It has something to do with people being lonely and wanting intimacy during this time of year. I’m looking forward to spending the time with my family, and not having to worry about going to his family’s house. Is that selfish? I think when I think about going to his house it reminds me of the ex and I sure as hell don’t want to go there. Here are his rules:

Why Dating Around the Holidays is a bad idea

After spending 31 years on this God Forsaken earth, I have made several realizations in life:

-When someone says it’s not about the money….it’s about the money.

-one more drink equals a massive headache the next morning

-one should never, under any circumstances date during the holidays.*

Let me explain the last realization in full.

There’s several reasons why you shouldn’t date during the holidays. Let’s take 3 most important. Oh, and by Holidays, I really mean from about Thanksgiving through St. Valentines Day.

1. It’s hard to make time around the holidays.

Usually you’re so busy trying to figure out what the hell your great aunt could use for Christmas (and no, Depends is not an acceptable gift), trying to finish up work projects so people arent at your throat before the holiday, and dealing with other assorted holiday related craziness, that the last thing you really have on your mind is a potential relationship. You try and figure out
a time to meet, and because of assorted Christmas parties and work and shopping you can meet at 11:30 AM on Thursday for Coffee. Save yourself some grief and wait a few weeks.

2. If you’re in on Thanksgiving, you’re in for the Holidays.

Let me explain. If you start dating in September or if you even break my rules, and start dating in say November, once it hits Thanksgiving, you sir, are in through at least January 1. Your problem is this, woe be it to the person who dumps their significant other right before Christmas. You sir, become only one level from “those who cheat.” Basically if you’re not sure about the person, cut it right off before Thanksgiving. Trust me on this one. I made the error of breaking something off in early December once, and it was World War 3. (I also made the mistake of breaking up with her at my house, which led to her refusing to leave my place at the time. Whoops. I ended up agreeing to make amends, and then a week later, as I was dropping her off after a movie, I rolled down the window and said by the way, I dont want to see you anymore, and then drove off. Hey. Survival mechanism). I ended up getting trashed big
time, which resulted in her friend, who is married to one of my old friends, pretty much domineering her husband into not hanging with me anymore because I was pretty much scum of the earth. Good times!

Nevertheless, if you can make it through the Holiday, there is a two week window in January where you can drop the ax. But once it hits late January you’re screwed again. Women may say that St. V’s day is no big deal, and not to worry about it. They’re lying. This is a trap. Ignore St V’s day at your own peril.

3. People are different during the holidays.

There’s no getting around this. If you’re really looking for someone (Ok. Long aside here. I know today some people think that dating is stupid and whatnot and don’t want to be in relationships. My experience is that these people are in 3 categories.

A. People who have been hurt bad and are wary. I can accept this. Been here done that.

B. People who are selfish. There seems to be a ton of that going around. They have no time for anyone but themselves, which seems to be the way people are heading these days.

C. People who dont WANT a significant other, they want to have a ton of friends and just hook up randomly. Hey thats great. But it ain’t the 60’s anymore. I’d rather not get aids or something like that. That’s just me.

Maybe I’m old fashioned, but I think its kind of nice having a girlfriend. Lots of friends are flavors of the week who come and go, with a girlfriend it can turn into something long term, and that’s better than having 15 fair weather friends. Rant Over)

……people just aren’t themselves around the holiday. Holidays bring stress and time constraints and all sorts of craziness. People deal with that in different ways, but one thing you should know is that the person is likely to be different in calmer times. Maybe you like someone because of their drive and passion, when it reality their drive and passion was fueled only by a lot of eggnog and a love for Kwanza. It’s much better to meet someone during normal times.

Take my advice and start your dating process….on February 15.

*-If I meet someone I’m truly into, I’m ignoring all my previous advice.

Well my date from Arizona came back for the holidays. We had another night out in Boston. The original plan was for some skiing at Mount Wachusett, but I canceled that idea last minute since I don’t have any of the equipment needed. We ended up going to a charity bowling event put on by Progress Charity Group. I had a great time, and I’m pretty sure he had fun too. He seemed to get along with my friends as well…maybe a little too well. Oh and he definitely kicked all our asses, guess I’m not a very good bowler (or ice skater, or skiier). I think I’m gonna leave it at that. Either way, he’s in Jamaica for a few days, so maybe we’ll see each other before he leaves again.

is a HUGE turn-on…just FYI

Not sure what this person was trying to tell me:

After 6 months and nothing more than 1 very drunken hook-up that could not be revisited due to, err, complications (aka “I have a girlfriend”) I retire from the dating game. Let me break down the statistics:

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That’s where I’ve been for the last month or so. I really don’t know why I live in New England sometimes. Haven’t been meeting anyone lately, probably because I haven’t left the house unless I really had to. I need to snap out of this soon or it’s gonna be a long, long winter.

Maybe I should give those telephone dating lines a try. Or maybe I should just breathe a little life into my internet dating. Or maybe I’ll just sign up for Netflix and eat lots of popcorn until, say, April.

Only 35 days til vacation in sunny Florida!

I saw a guy getting his clothes thrown out the window today. I thought it was just a movie cliche. I have to say, it was pretty funny. I’m sure he deserved it

Somebody wrote and article for me: “Maybe you’re dating the wrong guys so you can avoid making a commitment.”