As a fairly new college grad I quickly realized that hook-ups and relationships in the real world aren’t quite what they used to be during my dorm days. I don’t know if all college students go through this or if I just happened to be particularly naive, but either way maybe someone can help me out here.

While away at college a relationship didn’t mean much more to me than a couple of overnights here and there, and maybe a beer or two passed my way while out with friends. After a while people just knew we were an item, and that’s just how it was until we stopped spending nights together and I stopped getting free beer.

Now that I’m in the “Real World” (or at least what can best be described as the real world considering I live in Worcester) relationships are so much more confusing. A guy can stay over a couple times a week, take you out, and show you off to his friends, yet you’re still not a couple (I guess until you both agree that you are). What an akward conversation to have too. How the hell do you bring that up? I guess you could just be like me and avoid the topic completely until it gets to the point where even if you were a real couple, it would be over, and the fact that you’re not a real couple makes it that much easier.

What really aggravates me, even more than this faux couple bullshit, is the hook-up that just doesn’t get it. Isn’t the point of the hook-up basically a little instant gratification, perhaps followed by a little of the obligatory cuddling, and then he gets the fuck out of there? Why would some guy you brought home for the night think it was all right to stick around anytime after the noon o’clock hour? And the even more important question here is, how the hell do you get rid of him?

After running this by a couple of my guys (the friends of course) the only logical answer I got was he was hoping for a little more of what they got the night before (or earlier that morning in most cases). Am I the only woman that just wants to take a shower, run my errands, and do my own thing or are there other people out there that feel this way? Maybe I’m just a cold-hearted bitch, that seems to be a good explanation for everything nowadays.